Eyes of a Guy

Isaiah 3:16-18

Grabbing a guy's attention with your looks definately feels good at the time, but God punished these women for it. Why? Flirting may seem innocent, but there are a lot of problems with it.

First of all, the flattery and interest that comes from it is superficial. A guy attracted to you because you bat your eyelashes, giggle, and wear hott clothing isn't interested in knowing who you are. Raise you hand if you consider yourself to be a complicated person with a lot of heart or a lot to offer. How about if you just want someone to love you for who you are? Actually get to know YOU? If that applies to you then you don't want the kind of guy that you are going to attract with your body. Because that guy isn't going to find you special.

And flattery is like candy. It tastes good at first so we crave more, and the more we get the more we "need" until we get a sick churning in our gut that turns us off from candy. In terms of relationships, that when loneliness, emptiness, that feeling of being decieved, lied to, used. . . all sets in. And we get bitter and are convinced all men are pigs. . .  sound familiar? If you just chase after someone to tell you how hott you are, thats all you are going to get. It doesn't fill our needs. That doesn't build relationships. And if thats the first stone to your foundation, its all going to come crumbling down.

Second of all, when you flirt, you are using your body to attract. You bring your Christian brothers down by trying to get them to focus on the wrong thing. Every teen struggle's with lust. But you will be held responsible by God if you cause them to long after your body by putting it out on display. And i don't just mean clothing. Your gestures and comments can be just as suggestive as a mini skirt.

If you want a guy to see the precious person that you are, that you are priceless in God's eyes, you need to attract his spiritual eyes. A guy should be attracted to you because you treat yourself with respect, you radiate your love for Jesus, and you keep your body and your actions pure. This is the kind of guy that will also value his own purity, and will treat you as the precious gem to God that you are. He will not bring shame to you.

You don't need to change how you look. God made you perfect. He has someone in mind for you. If you put yourself out there fishing for guys, you are just going to turn off the right guy, because he wont be attracted to all that.